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"Marriage" a lesson to be learnt.


Marriage is a formal union between two people that  establishes rights and obligations to unites their lives legally, economically, spiritually and emotionally. Most of people start to think and plan about marriages in their 2nd decade. 

This is the  period where everyone is busy planning &deciding their dreams &goals, career to be pursued, and the road to be taken to achieve what they desire. In early twenties we start to look for a way to make a bunch of notes, a woman/ man of our dreams, falling in love and lie ourselves that notes and love are enough for us to plan out our marriage.

Globally, the divorce rate has more than doubled, from 2.6 divorces for every 1,000 married people to 5.5. Those results are averaged across all the regions of the world that were studied 2019.The most appearing reasons for marriage end in divorce are infidelity, insecurity, addiction,abuses, communication problems and incompatibility. 

Talking about incompatibility, it's like a kind of ignorance in  marriage. Because we should take time to study our compatibility with our partners before deciding our marriage. It's better to get to know our boy/girlfriend's strengths &weaknesses, goals &dreams, social & secret behaviours, abilities &boundaries, hates and likes during courtship instead of being blinded by love, because marriage is something bigger than that. 

Is there any astounding doctor or engineer we know who never learnt to pursuit his/ her career? why not marriage? That is a big decision we took in our lives, which almost affect a half(1/2) of  our lifetime. why do we always want to be heroes and heroines in our family, while we never took time to learn about how to achieve that?

We always dream about living in romantic lives with our spouses, but never learn how to make our matrimony lovesome before or in our marriage. We thought that our love will covers everything and that restrain us from our responsibility of learning about marriages and relationships. 

Marriage is another lesson we should give our time to learn and read from different books for the reasons of acquiring  knowledge and skills to make it efficacious. Marriage is a decision to be made when you are mentally and emotionally stable, financially secured and socially  settled for making it a  success. "Let us learn from others experiences to secure our marriages". 

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  1. UnknownSeptember 11, 2020 at 1:20 AM

    Courageous girl! u've got a point . it's better to know it well before taking decision about our marriage.

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    1. Sandra spark.September 12, 2020 at 3:43 AM

      Thank you.
      It's for better to know well our partners in marriage before to avoid the complaints of disparity.

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  2. AnonymousSeptember 11, 2020 at 3:38 AM

    Interesting! We should take our time to review instead of rushing in marriage. Thank you for ur great reminder .
    U can share those kinds of books with me if possible. ��

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    1. Sandra spark.September 12, 2020 at 3:58 AM

      Ooh l can recommend you this books if you want to learn more about relationships and marriage.
      @Relationships goals by michael Todd.
      @Things I wish I'd known before we got married by Gary Chapman.
      I hope those books to display truth in your life and I can encourage you to keep reading many books related to marriages and relationships for better preparation of you new home.
      Thank you

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  3. AnonymousSeptember 11, 2020 at 3:53 AM

    Woow. Thank you for an interesting article.

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  4. IZERESeptember 11, 2020 at 4:49 AM

    It's better to secure our marriage as well as our lifetime after it. Thank you for inspiration and interesting topic so keep shining, learning is the of knowing.

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    1. Sandra spark.September 12, 2020 at 4:02 AM

      I'm delighted that you find this interesting and inspirational. I will keep sharing more interesting articles here & hope to stay in touch .

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  5. UnknownSeptember 11, 2020 at 10:05 PM

    Thank you so much young Lady for this piece of advise!!! It's really inspired me and I got a lot from it.
    Keep it up girl,keep teaching the world.
    May God bless your hand works!!

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  6. UnknownSeptember 11, 2020 at 10:34 PM

    That's great! Thank you for an interesting articles

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  7. UnknownSeptember 12, 2020 at 12:16 AM

    I liked this a lot. Keep going on!!!!there are intresting point !!! Lucky are those who ready this article

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    1. Sandra spark.September 12, 2020 at 4:07 AM

      Woow. A very constructive comment and I hope that u've shared it to your friends.
      Thank you.

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  8. UnknownSeptember 14, 2020 at 8:58 AM

    thank you dear!

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  9. UnknownSeptember 16, 2020 at 4:40 PM

    Congz Sandra, it was really interesting n amazing, keep it up, i still wanna learn from u

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  10. AnonymousSeptember 18, 2020 at 12:47 AM

    Here I found a point of making yourself stable first to plan for marriage.

    Wow thanks Sandra

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