Things woman expect to get from a man but will never get.

 

Things woman expect to get from a man but will never get.

One morning she wakes up feeling like entire world is on her shoulder. She was feeling so helpless and desperate at the same time. She wanted someone to hearken her, and provide some  guidance in handling the situation. She thought to call her man for jaw unfortunately, the man was on his way to work. He told her to wait until twilight after work, certainly he was going to have an on the go day. Young female phoned the man again at nightfall and responded that he is goofing off with  friends and guaranteed to talk to her the next dawn.

The girl waited the whole night till daylight. The call was received in the morning, asking her if she is fine and she says that it's okay despite something bothering her at moment. The guy inquired about the thing and she responded how she feels miserable and thought she is losing. He replied in few words saying that everything will be okay, and told her that he has got a plenty of work to do and should get going. 

The girl thought that James(guys' name) doesn't give him enough time to listen to her distress. she got anxious and decided to never tell him what's going on with her life again. She began to feel unloved and later took decision of leaving a relationship with James. Eventually She joined a new relationship with another guy who worked across her office. In the beginning they seem get close and talks much but as day goes on the guy begun to act like James. He could no longer enjoy extended conversation with the girl. Ostensibly The girl started to realize the sameness of both guys.

There are things women always expect to get from men but will never get.We as women should know that we are different from men, especially when it comes to relationships. Women cares and loves in a way different from how man does. Sometimes we wish our feelings to be reciprocated in a way we give in while it's different. Most of the time women thoughts and actions seem to be weird in the eyes on man. That's why I've bring you some of the differences between women and man especially when it comes to relationship to prepare you for unpleasant amazement you could get in a way.

Naturally women are born talkers. They like to talk on everything not because they deserve a comment but because they feel to. Guys don't understand that. They are like " why would she always talk about everything!" They can't understand how we do this but guys should know that it's their nature. Women love to be taken care of, to have someone to listen to her every story and feelings she got. It's better for guys to cope with this personality and tries to help their women. Just give them time to listen and provide the help she want from you.

On  contrary men are different from women c's they are absolutely silent. Simply they don't talk about everything. They speak less even if they deserve to be listened to as women do. So girls try to understand why he can't talk to you in a way you think he should. He is just not like you. When you tell him 100 words he will respond in 10  words. That's how they are. Be understanding when you thought about how he talks to you. Let him be a man and be yourself... Woman.

Man handle situations in a way differ from woman. Jessy leads a transport company called Mperla. She met with another woman whom is not on  good terms with her in board meeting and was surprised to find herself wearing the same dress. She returned from work anxiously to tell her husband how bad she looked wearing the same dress as her opponents' in the board meeting. She was mad and talks as much as she can. Her husband listen to her question and immediately tells her not to wear that dress again. Men are quick to react to situation and are born with that capacity, while women first replay about how things are, invest their emotions in situation and think hard to get to what she wants. Our solutions comes after everything. So please don't expect your man to pass through the same steps. 

Feelings are expressed differently between men and women. Women tend to care and express love directly while men may seem not to care. Most of the time women claim about the care she is receiving . I had a friend who would always plead about her boyfriend. She could be sad whenever her man tells her that he won't be able to attend to her calls a whole day. She couldn't understand how busy her man would be to never return the call whenever she needs to talk to him. This kind of complain is on the first list on most women's complaints list but I want to remind you that your man would never be able to go for your every minute call. Men needs time to do their jobs, concentrate on creating their future its always disruptive to attend to your non stop calls. Please be understanding and don't forge his absence into cheating or force them to do what's seem unproductive accept them and drive their way to change.

About how he handle situations might seem so special and unjust in the eyes of women . Men reacts and respond quickly to every situation thrown to them. Some time this seem to be unjust or impulsive decision to be made and you think he would change that. Normally there are not being impulsive. If you complain about your dress at home while he has been saving money for your shoes , he will directly decide to buy you a dress you've been complaining about without thinking about the shoes he was about to buy. They just want to end problems in short period as possible. They hate being troubled repetitively by he same matter. So if your husband or boyfriend is acting this way please don't force him to be reasonable like you . No learn to live in his world and allow him to add you in his decision making process. That would be more productive that accusing him to react on impulse.

Reaction to surprise will be always different. Men like gifts But please don’t expect the same reaction you would have because You will never see that. Men are not going to go to pieces and cry because you brought home a gift or planned a special trip or put together a nice, romantic surprise dinner for them. that's well not very manly. Said Steven Harvey.

In a nut shell men are emotionally different to women. You could ask yourself why but  it's a hell how they are made. Always they want simple things which will not cost their manhood, never-ending attention, and their faces. Men are simple but don't expect to get same reaction and actions from them as women c's it's not happening. Let them be men and be yourself"women".

Real man & real woman.

Mia and her husband Carl lives in hauston with their lovely kid. They have been living together happily for 5years. Carl is a hard working man  leading a robotic company called iRobot. He earns well and is able to fulfil his responsibility of providing to his family as a father. His wife work as a college teacher in the city.

One day Carl returned home drunk around midnight. He bumped to Mia on his way to bed. Mia was extremely shocked by new behavior  presented by carl at moment and accompanied him to bed. Next morning Mia asked her husband what makes him do what he does recent night, and Carl responded him that he was tired of jokes played by his workmate and laugh at him because he can't drink as other man's do, and that made him to doubt his manhood.

"Who is a real man?"

 "who is a real woman? "

" Who is a real man or who is a true woman?" How can I be a real man? What will it take to be a true woman? Many people ask themselves this question, especially young adults. I've been asking myself the same questions and I'm thrilled to share you the answers I've found for the questions. In this article you will find what you've been looking for .

First of all, a real man is filtered through this three basic things. It is by his title ( who he is), how he gets that title (what he does) and the rewards he gets for the title(what he makes). You are not going to be a real man if you are sitting somewhere doing nothing which can prove your manhood. Before you turn your dream into reality you will always feel insecure and unsure of your future. As a man always work for your title and fight for your name. Note that before accomplishing those 3 basic things you will never be able to focus on others whether your family or your partner in relationship.

In addition to those 3 things recently mentioned above A true man is man with genuine self-confidence. This is a key to your success as a man. You should be  a man who knows his own mind and knows what he's about to in life. A real man is not afraid to stand up for what he believes in.

A real man is the provider of the family. He is strong, physically and mentally, and is never too proud to exhibit strong emotion. It's man's responsibility to protect and provide for his family and in relationship once committed, he is faithful to only one woman. 

A real woman is a woman with self confidence who is determined to do everything which makes her who she dream to be. She works hard for her dreams to come true. She is reasonable, understanding and tries all her best to cope up with everything she meets in her life. She is full of devotion and ready to pay price and offers sacrifice to what she would like get.

A real woman is compassionate! She's a woman who's open and honest with genuine heart to help and support her partner and family.

A real woman is one with self respect and show respect to others. She is a woman with ability to make good choices and take control over her life. Her devotion is always to what she loves and give full support to whom she believes in.

Why Should I date him? Seven worthwhile reasons for dating.

 

I started dating him when I was 17. we have been together for 3 years, but I can't find anything interesting or profitable from this relationship, said Mary. I dated her for 4 years and she never asked about our marriage? She is thoughtless and I found that hard for our relationship to continue, said Kenny. He used my love and sincerity to hurt me. I shouldn't have dated him in the first place. I thought I was too young for dating, and surprisingly I'm not learning anything constructive from this, said Natie.

In the beginning of  pubescence 64% of guys fall in love tho' 86% of fancy to gain a legacy of dating cute girls in high school. 59.6% teengirls fall in love tho' 78%  worldwide girls wish to hang out with hot guys in their schools or neighbourhood. This was shown in statistics on high school about teens and relationships conducted by stageoflife.com in April 2014.

You may not be familiar with word dating. According to urban dictionary dating is where two people who are attracted to each other spend time together to see if they can stand to be around one another most of the time, and if this turn to be successful they decide to develop a relationship. whereas UK  English dictionary defines dating as a form of romantic relationships in human whereby two people meet socially with the aim of assessing the other's suitability as partner in an intimate relationship.

 

Dating is an a stage of amorous connection which renders skills and good experiences that enhances couples to decide their marriage. It's where we develop our communication and relationships skills in an opposite sex. Dating phase can also be an outbreak for different bad experiences like heartbreaks, deceptions  and sometimes unpleasant outcomes when it's not done poorly. 

Back on mary, Kenny and natie's relashionship experiences, many people inculpate dating for their encountered problems during dating, but I want to let you know that dating isn't the root for those problems we came across with. Its either you or your partner's immaturity, dependency, self gratification, addictive romance or lack of relationship skills that made you experience those heartbreaks, Pain, mistrust and insecurity.Dating is good experience when it's done in a way it should. Let's look about 7 benefits we attain from dating either for mature  young adults or older adults. 

1. Dating gives people the opportunity to learn about themselves, others, and relationships in a risk-free environment. When done properly, dating is an incubator time of discovering the opposite sex, one’s own sexual feelings, moral limits, one’sneed for relationship skills, and one’s tastes in people. But dating must be done in the "proper context." A single person must date within a community of people who care about him or her. For teens, this context is their parents, friends, youth group,youth pastor,and  coaches. Dating gives people a place to grow and learn in the safety of people who can help them develop.

2. Dating provides a surrounding to work through issues. If you try to ask some happily married people how they would have fared if they had married their first boyfriend or girlfriend, you can be astounded by thier responses. According to different  researches ,People’s first choices of who they are attracted to may not be so great. Dating offers people a place to find out that what they think they value in a person might not be what they long in lifetime marriage. They may find that what they are attracted to is fleeting and can even be destructive. Sometimes we found out that what looked so good in a casual relationship did not seem reasonable or true in a closer relationship over time. Lots of people look good until they found what they really expect in relationship time after time.

3. Dating succour in building  relationship skills. Intimate relationships take a lot of work and a lot of skills. Many people do not come to the table of adulthood having learned these relationship skills in their families or other places. But, when they begin dating, they find out that they possess some serious insecurities, or they lack certain relationship skills, such as communication, vulnerability, trust, assertiveness, honesty, self-sacrifice, and listening. In their dating relationships they become aware of their immaturity and are able to find out what they need to work on before they are ready for a significant relationship. In addition, dating gives a person the opportunity to learn about relationship itself and how they function in a relationship. It can be an enormous time of growth and discovery.

4. Dating can heal and repair. I talked to my friend simon and I was astounded by his past experience in relationship and how his girlfriend helped him heal and nurtures from his past heartbreaks and hurts. He was greatful that she assisted him in becoming the man he was always dreamed to be. Although dating shouldn't be the primary place that some-one seeks healing, but it's a place where good things happen in people’s souls. People benefit from good relationships and can be the place to learn, heal, grow, and feel stretched, even if the relationship does not lead to marriage. It has value in a person’s life.

5. Dating is relational and has value in and of itself. In dating some people may seek their own gratification, While others certainly use their partners selfishly in the dating realm. Dating can be good when its done in a way of helping one's to grow, and should be benefited by both partners in relationship. It is about getting to know someone, spending time with him, and sharing things which is "intimacy."it is by receiving and giving love and respect to the one you are with in relationship. Although here I can say that its better if you restrain from sexual union as you are in dating and not yet in marriage to avoid unnecessary soul ties which can be hard to break once you marry someone else. When two singles love each other, give to each other, and share something in life, although the relationship has limits of both body and heart, it has value as well.

6. Dating lets someone learn what he or she likes in the opposite sex. Everyone has different taste when it comes to relationship. May be what you like isn't what everyone else wishes to see and have in his/her partner. We all have some ideals and some natural attractions. Some of those may be good, and some may be rooted in sickness and not everyone knows what kin of  people he likes and what are good for him. What is it like to spend a lot of time with a driver personality? For some it is heaven, for others, hell. What is it like to be around an intellectual person day after day? For some, it may be very stimulating. For others, very dry and boring. What we sometimes think we like is not what would really be good for us in long term, but we have to find this out. Dating gives people a context to meet and spend time with a wide variety of people. They can find out what they like, what they need, and what is good for them.

7. Dating gives a context to learn sexual self-control and other delay of gratification.Good dating allows people the opportunity to have a relationship and forgo sex. This delaying of gratification teaches something very valuable for marriage relationship and educate us that doing the best for the other person is more important than self-gratification and sexual expression. Some married couples do not know how to relate, and one or both use sex to substitute for relationship. Dating done correctly teaches self-control and delay of gratification.Both of those are prerequisites for any marriage to work. Dating can be done poorly and can lead to hurt and pain. Dating can be done well and can lead to wonderful fruits in the life of the teen and the adult single.

In closing ,dating has become a pin point issue discussed differently by  many people  starting from 20th century. It's better if we try to read and learn how to make our dating days magnificent from trusted sources . More readings about dating and healthy relationships you can find those books for  your assistance. 

*The All-or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work, by Eli J. Finkel

* Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life, by Emily Nagoski

*The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert, by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver

*Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships, by Dr. Sue Johnson

*The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, by Gary Chapman

*Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships, by Cloud Henry &Townsend John